Plan B Doesn’t Work For Fat Chicks
This is almost too funny. Only in America (and the UK and other Western wastelands) would this be a problem – meaning that the supply of these fat chicks would grossly outweight (heh) the demand for them. Sadly, that is no longer the case in America.
Here’s a case of a mother and successful American public figure, Roxanne Moore, protecting and preparing her son against a crime – false rape accusations.
Never have sex with a girl unless she’s sent you a text that proves the sexual relationship is consensual beforehand. And it’s a good idea to even follow up any sexual encounter with a tasteful text message saying how you both enjoyed being with one another — even if you never plan on hooking up again.
Why would a mother be concerned with this?
when heavy drinking is involved, the meaning of consent can be misconstrued on both sides.
Okay, sounds reasonable enough. After all, Teen Health Source (a resource provided by Planned Parenthood) provides the following recommendations on their website:
How should I ask for consent?
There are lots of ways to make asking for consent fun and sexy. Here are some ways to ask:
o I’d really like to kiss you. How do you feel about that?
o I think it would be hot if you took your shirt off. Is it okay if I take it off?
o I think you’re hot. Wanna have sex?
o I’d like to try going down on you. Would that be ok?
If things are moving forward and you want to try new things, continue to pause and ask first.
So Ms. Moore is basically providing a strategy that takes this advice, supported by Planned Parenthood, to her son. However, when the rubber hits the road, the very proponents of “consent” balk. Looking through a few articles, opposition to her demonstrates little thought and lots of feelings. For example, opposition points out with glee that she is making her son into a rapist, or point to the fact that a rapist could “hack” into a phone. Link 1, Link 2, Link 3. These arguments demonstrate hapless clawing for a counterargument – and more importantly assume that Ms. Moore is either malicious enough to raise a rapist, or dumb enough to not translate to her son the definition of consent – and dumb enough to assume that it’s okay to have forced sex with anybody you have a preexisting relationship with. And of course, neither of them address the actual points she is making: Consent is important. Evidence is important. Protect yourself. Isn’t that the same message we give to women? Apparently men can’t get that.
Let’s forget that consent matters. Because consent doesn’t matter (because it can change for any reason)!
Her advice to her son is actually extremely misguided and stupid because consent can change. Consent can be renegotiated or be revoked entirely. A text message suggesting sex is going to happen doesn’t mean one of the partners — her son perhaps! — will change their mind, for whatever reason.
Actually, you shouldn’t ask, weirdo!
I would also suggest that many young women would be weirded out by a guy who tries to get their consent via text message as “proof.” It suggests that he doesn’t see consent as a negotiation. Which begs the question, why not? A fundamental distrust of women, like the one Roxanne Jones is breeding in her son and his friends, is extremely unsexy.
Conclusion
Rape is a serious crime, and it should never happen. However, the discourse around consent in America is large incongruent – as evidenced by the shaming and contradictory statements that other women levy upon a mother who is trying to help her son comply with tactics that even Planned Parenthood propagates. By saying that consent is important (which is true), while stymying the ability of a consenting sexual party to actually confirm consent, does not serve the dialogue and in fact sets all parties backwards. Furthermore, this response highlights how these writers celebrate female promiscuity, while shaming male promiscuity. It seems like equality is not the goal here. It becomes even less clear what the goal actually is. Interestingly enough, this is not the first time Roxanne Jones has been attacked by women.
Anthony Bourdain may be one of the most alpha men of his generation. A badass, jetsetting, drinking, cursing, cook. His newest show on CNN, Parts Unknown, most recently took him to Detroit.
Below he’s meeting with Adolph Mongo, a political strategist in Detroit. At best, a regional alpha. The interaction involves Anthony ordering a beer, Mongo making fun of his selection, and then Bourdain regaining the upper hand.
Bourdain: I know what I’m having…I’ll have a beer
Mongo: Man this ain’t this kinda place, man *picks up his drink* I thought you drank, man. You drinking beer?
Bourdain: What are you drinking?
Mongo: I’m drinking vodka.
Bourdain: I’ll have what he’s … I’ll fold under pressure. Then I’ll think about a burger down the way. You want something to eat?
Mongo: *looks down* I may.
While it may seem like Bourdain makes the concession by changing his drink order, there is a lot to be said about keeping the tone conversational and light before delivering the final blow.
Conclusion
Some may say this analysis seems arbitrary and irrelevant. Those same people are also the ones who would apologize to Mongo for drinking beer.
